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Chronic Illness and Mental Health: Real-Life Advice from a Psychologist Who’s Been There

When receiving a diagnosis of a chronic physical condition, most people focus on the physical and practical impact on their life. What is often missed by both the professionals and the person getting diagnosed is the mental health impact of this process.

Our psychologist Lizzie Cupper has first hand experience with receiving a diagnosis of a chronic condition, and we sat with her for a chat about her experience and tips.

Lizzie is a proud country girl who grew up in the Mallee and now lives with her two happy (aka: spoiled) cats. Her favourite food is mushrooms and her role model is Rihanna. In Lizzie’s words ‘she is just super cool, and we are nothing alike’.

In 2012, Lizzie was diagnosed with a chronic illness. She described this time as ‘going into ‘a panic/survival mode – postponing my postgraduate studies as I tried to prioritise seeing family and thinking about any “bucket list” items. With the advantage of hindsight, I can look back on that scared, recently married young woman and reflect on how far I have come.’

When we asked what she wishes every disabled person knew about mental health she described the importance of “putting your own oxygen mask on” first. For Lizzie, this means a Sunday routine of reading the newspaper (an actual physical copy!), watching Insiders on the ABC and having a really long breakfast.


Lizzie has been working in the mental health sector for six years, with experience in supporting people experiencing depression and anxiety, adjustment issues, psychosocial challenges, suicide ideation, disability and more.


We asked Lizzie about her favourite part about working with people with disability and chronic conditions on their mental wellbeing. She described enjoying getting to know people as individuals – ‘not just what challenges they are facing’. This is one of the things we love about our work – it is about people, not problems or numbers.

Lizzie knows first hand that living well with a chronic condition involves more than medical appointments. We asked what her top three self-care strategies that she uses. Lizzie said ‘Try to keep to a simple routine, spend heaps of time with my cats and husband, and eat a whole-foods, plant-based diet.’

To wrap up our conversation, we asked Lizzie for advice for people who are struggling with their disability, or with a new diagnosis. Here’s what she said: ‘It’s a deeply personal thing but I guess, just take your time with it. When you are ready, perhaps choose one trusted person to share how you’re feeling and ask them to check in with you from time to time.’

[This blog was originally written by Liel Bridgford and the Kultivate team for ECTRIMS. Kultivate is a proud patient Community Day Supporting Partner.]

From Shame to Pride

By Liel Bridgford [4 minutes read]

As a kid all I ever wanted to be seen as was ‘normal’. I carefully chose my clothes to hide my leg, I would always tuck my leg under or behind me. I was keenly and constantly aware of other people’s gaze. At the slightest hint that someone was looking towards my leg or staring at the way I walked, I would avert my own gaze, trying to bury my shame.

More than three decades into living in a disabled body, I have now been proudly selected as an honoree for Diversability’s D-30 Disability Impact list! This feels like the perfect celebration of Disability Pride Month. 

D-30 Disability Impact List Honoree - Liel Bridgford, Kultivate Founder and Director
D-30 Disability Impact List Honoree – Liel Bridgford, Kultivate Founder and Director

Today I am prouder than ever to call myself a disabled person who looks straight into people’s eyes if they stare, talk about disabilities openly and dress to express my personality, uneven legs, feet and all. 

Getting to this point was not easy, nor automatic. I was not raised with disability pride, nor did I come to know about it until well into adulthood. Grief, anger, sadness and frustrations were and still are a part of my life. Living in this world, particularly as a disabled person, is hard. What I have learnt over the years though, is how to live the most meaningful life I possibly can. 

The disability community has taught me about acceptance. I do not accept things that we should and can change like inaccessibility, abuse, or neglect of disabled people. 

But I now accept and do not fight with the fact that I was born different. That my leg has a few bones ‘missing’, that my ankle has zero movement, or that I will likely need orthopaedic, custom-made shoes for the rest of my life. I embrace these facts by practising disability acceptance daily. For me, this means wearing shorts that reveal my legs, using my walking stick, telling randoms at the playground that I am disabled, and more. 

By the way, we have recently created an FAQ page to answer your most common questions about disability, mental health and more. Disability acceptance is a common theme so check out the new videos HERE to learn more. 

 

I now have dedicated my life’s mission to improving the lives of disabled people. This International recognition of The D-30 Disability Impact List for disabled leaders feels like a huge log onto my motivational fire to make disabled lives better. I plan to continue working tirelessly to improve disabled lives, and hope to leave this world more equitable, accessible, safe and wonderful, especially for multiply marginalised disabled people. 

The D-30 list this year is filled with determined, creative, courageous and passionate people including Chloé Hayden and Sonny Jane Wise who I am a huge fan of. 

Thank you to those who nominated me, and everyone supporting me, my work and the disability community at large. 

Little Liel would not have believed that as an adult I’ll be so loud & proud about being disabled, and be fortunate enough to support other disabled folks daily. 

To learn more about the list and read about the other honorees visit: https://mydiversability.com/2023-d30-honorees

Happy Disability Pride Month! 

Liel Bridgford 

Psychologist, Writer, Educator 

Kultivate Founder and Director

Acknowledgement of Country

The Kultivate team acknowledges working and living on unceded Aboriginal land. We mainly work on the lands of the Wurundjeri Woi Wurrung and Boonwurrung people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders — past, present and emerging. We are committed to ongoing learning and working towards reconciliation and justice.