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Many people ask me how they can make a difference to the lives of disabled people. Becoming a better ally to the disability community is something anyone can do. It doesn’t take a huge investment of time, money or effort. You can give back by carrying some of the weight of an ableist society – through educating yourself, making mindful choices and educating others.

We live in a society filled with ableism, which is the discrimination and marginalisation of people based on oppressive systems that abnormalises bodies and minds. In other words, ableism in the unjust discrimination and prejudice against disabled people. Ableism is universal, although it has distinct charachteristics in differing parts of the world, different classes, races and genders.

In order to dismantle ableism, we need to do active, deliberate work, which is often called advocacy. Doing this work comes with a burden, which is heavy. Most disability and justice advocates are disabled people themselves, although I believe that we are all responsible for carrying the burden of an ableist society, and to dismantle ableist systems and ideas. It is our human responsibility to take care of each other and make sure everyone can not only survive, but thrive in our communities.

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To help carry this burden, here are a few things you can try to help disabled people in your community:

• Educate yourself from disabled people themselves – about what it means to live with a disability, what kind of barriers we face every day – in attitudes, physical spaces, the medical system, in our social groups. You can do this through reading own voices books, blogs, articles, essays and social media content. Listen to music written and performed by disabled musicians. Watch movies and series written and/or produced by disabled people. Listen to a podcast hosted by disabled people. Search for disability stories wherever you get entertained.

• Think of disability as the common, normal experience that it is. Commit to thinking from this lens when you interact with people.
• Call out ableism – Think of access when you visit public places. Consider asking about accessibility before your visit any venue – and put your money into accessible venues. Ask yourself how accessible is your favorite coffee shop or your workplace, and speak up when you notice inaccessibility. You can do this by speaking with management of businesses, writing to your local government representative, or making a complaint.
• Learn about and talk to family and friends about ableist slurs – notice when you use ableist slurs, and research alternatives to use.
• Make your social media posts accessible – start with an image descriptions for your pics, captions for your video, and high colour contrasts for your text. 
• Check in with your disabled friends – ask about how they’re doing, and if you have capacity, ask about how you can help carry some of their burden. For example, you can offer to check if a venue is accessible before meeting, or do some research about support options they are seeking.

Liel Bridgford

Psychologist, Writer, Educator

Kultivate Founder & Director

By Liel Bridgford [4 min read]

On December 3rd 2024 I spoke in front of an awaiting audience my favourite topic – mental health of people with disability. It was the perfect way to celebrate International Day of People With Disability. 

This was my first Key Note speech and the welcome I received from the hosts at St John of God Accord was phenomenal. 

Here is a summary of my speech: 

“I was an angry child. I was in my late twenties when I finally made the connection between being an unheard disabled kid and my persistent anger. 

We get told by the society we live in, that we cannot possibly be well if we’re disabled.

But disabled people experience discrimination in our daily life and this of course impacts our quality of life and mental health.

Mental ill health is not our destiny. We often have poorer mental health because we live in a world that isn’t built for us. 

The question that needs answering is not how can we live well with disability but how can we live well in an ableist world? 

If we want to improve the lives and mental wellbeing of disabled people we need to change the world. 

By the world I mean the society we live in, to become equitable and safe for every body and every mind. 

But, while we are working towards changing the world, we also need individual support – so that we each live well in a world that isn’t built for us.

So how do we thrive with our mental wellbeing in this world? There are three pillars I’m suggesting we focus on. 

The first pillar is formal support. 

This support can include health, community and other professionals, and it needs to focus on removing barriers to participate equitably in society and thrive. 

The support should aim to increase our quality of life – not focussing solely on our limitations, but consider our personal goals, dreams, aspirations and our strengths. 

The second pillar of living well and improving our mental health as disabled people is social connections. 

Finding our people can be hard. Sometimes even being around others is difficult, and the spaces people spend time in are often inaccessible. 

When I was growing up, I did have friends. But there was so much all my friends did that I couldn’t do. And it left me feeling like an outsider.

I believe that we need social connections both within and outside the disability community. When we pretend like we don’t belong to the disability community, we are feeding into our internalised stigma. We also miss out on opportunities to learn, to laugh, to heal. 

I often hear in my practice: ‘People don’t get it’.

This is where the third pillar for mental wellbeing comes in – engage better. 

This pillar helps us build and sustain the first two pillars and our mental wellbeing overall. Engaging better is about improving our skills that lift our wellbeing.

I’m going to tell you about the skills I believe are most important, which is why I called them the building blocks of the third pillar. 

Asking for help is the first building block of engaging better.

As disabled people, we need to ask for help so much more because we live in a society that doesn’t automatically accommodate our needs.

The second building block of engaging better is communication.Not only we may struggle with communication because of our disability experience, but as disabled people we need to have better communication skills than non-disabled people. 

Our third building block for engaging better is acceptance. It’s about learning how to be uncomfortable, and at the same time, be ok.

The fourth building block is managing disability tax. We need to manage and address disability tax to make sure we minimise it as much as possible, manage our time the best we can, and get the supports we need to ensure we still have space for meaning and purpose.

The fifth building block of engaging better, which is my favourite, is meaning and purpose. To optimise our mental health we want to experience joy, self confidence and positive emotions. [2] We need to do things that matter to us, to behave in a way that makes us feel proud. 

The next building block in the engage better pillar is self compassion. To best live through all of these external and internal challenges, and look after our mental wellbeing, we need self-compassion.

The final building block we need to mention, and I’m going to put it at the very bottom of the pillar, because without it, we can really struggle with all of those skills. 

A crucial building block in engaging better to improve our mental wellbeing, is understanding and managing our internalised ableism. 

Internalised ableism is the common denominator that gets in our way to practice all of these! Without managing this, you can see how the pillar kind of falls down. 

Internalised ableism is the collection of the thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that are rooted in the discrimination and prejudice against disabled people.

 

When we learn to recognise, name, and manage our own unique collection, it makes it possible to be more compassionate towards ourselves, more accepting, to find meaning and overall engage better. “

There was more to this speech, which if you’re interested you can listen and watch here. 

What I particularly enjoyed was connecting with fellow disabled people and the people who support them. 

Thank you again to St John of God Accord for having me, and to Nillumbik Shire Council for the grant making this event possible. 

Until the next IDPWD, let’s all find small moments of celebrating disability pride. 

Liel Bridgford

Psychologist, Writer, Educator 

Kultivate Founder and Director

By Liel Bridgford [2 min read]

It took me nearly 30 years to find out that an Occupational Therapist is a profession that could be relevant to my life. Not only they can be relevant, but they can help improve my access to things and people I love, and even improve my quality of life.

Lack of collaboration between professionals, and the knowledge gatekeeping from clients is still a significant problem in the health system. That’s why at Kultivate I am determined to create something different. A practice, and a system where information is shared, where clients are the experts, and are given all the information and knowledge they need to thrive.

That is why we decided to support the 2025 ECTRIMS patient community day – to help more people with neurological conditions receive the information and support they need.

The event is happening on 26 September 2025 in Barcelona & online and is designed to bring the latest research about Multiple Sclerosis and related conditions to people living with them.

To register, visit: https://www.ectrimspatientcommunity.eu/registration

As we get closer to the date, we are thinking more about how to support the community and are hoping to host an event to watch and connect.

Would you want to get together to watch and connect with the community? In person in Melbourne or online? Let us know by emailing contact@kultivate.au.

We are excited and proud to provide a little support to this fantastic event, created for clients with the sole aim of improving people’s lives.

Having knowledge gives us power – to make more informed decisions, to speak up, to access our community. A simple suggestion from my first Occupational Therapist to get a stool meant significantly less lifting and bending, less pain and even less fatigue.

No one should wait 30 years to receive the support that they need to thrive.

If anything that we learn in our journeys as professionals can help any other person, we want to share it. In fact, here at Kultivate we believe that education and collaboration is a crucial part of providing excellent support.

If there is something you want or need to know, or if the support you currently have isn’t working — know that things can improve. Learning from others, both professionals and peers, can be one of the ways to create the change you are after.

Liel Bridgford

Psychologist | Writer | Educator

Kultivate Founder & Director